I've been thinking a lot lately about having another baby. I can't imagine being pregnant already... for heavens sake the boy is a BABY still. Although thinking along the 2 years apart that I always thought the perfect age difference for siblings I'd need to be getting pregnant again within a couple of months.
I'm so torn. I just don't know if I can handle two on my own financially. I think I could do it but it would be a stretch. I just don't know. I'm hoping if I can get out of debt by next summer and if I get a decent raise again next year it may be possible. If it wasn't for the cost of childcare I could do it easily.
I think about growing older and ultimately dying and leaving my son alone. I don't want that for him. Yes, he will have cousins but really how close will he be to them? Lately, I've been thinking about asking for a referral for the clinic next summer (putting the kids around 3 years apart if it's successful right away). I was happy to hear from someone I've met online (who lives in my city) that the second time around it only took about 6 weeks to get into the clinic rather than the 6+ months it took the first time. It's nice to know that as a returning patient you get bumped to the front of the list.
Is it going to come down to money? The thought of that saddens me.
Saturday, September 13, 2008
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Before I even have my first child, I know that I would very much want a second child (and a third, but that's probably way too unrealistic). It's also the thaught of them being there for each other, but also because I'm scared of having a symbiotic relation with an only kid.
I wish you luck (and plenty of cash) on fulfilling your dream. Hope money won't be an issue, or at least won't be a big one.
I haven't managed one yet but two is absolutely the plan for the reasons that you mentioned.
People always seem to find a way to make it work so I hope you do too. It's not right that money stand in the way of a little sister for the boy!
I've been thinking about it too...maybe there's something in the air. I've been oh so wistfully rubbing my belly and thinking "oh wouldn't it be nice to have just one more..."
Then the mailman hands me a stack of bills and I sigh.
Short of winning the lottery, I don't think I'm going to do it. I have just barely enough that I can give my daughter whatever she wants. It would be such an immense struggle with two.
That's why I decided to start a babysitting/inhome daycare business (w/ real estate so slow I have to do something). This way I get the pleasure of having a bunch of kids, without the financial commitment.
Then again, at the end of the day, can anyone ever really afford a child? I think it's one of those, just suck it up and do it things. You'll find a way to make sure the bills get paid on time.
If your in the same city as me and go to the same clinic you don't even need a referral if you have been a patient in the last 5 years. I called the other day thinking it would be about a 6 month wait to get back in and they were about to make me an appointment for Nov 4....just a bit too early for me.
Hi Tanya:
A IRL friend left this comment for you on my blog, it's about strategic voting. The links will be active on my blog.
Kuri has left a new comment on your post "Smart":
Tanya, I don't know if you'll be checking back, but you sound like someone who could use Greg Marrow's Strategic Voting Guide (when it comes online on Sep. 29), by breaking things down riding by riding instead of going by the national averages, it ensures that if you're going to hold your nose and vote for someone less than ideal, that it's actually in fact strategic (so many strategic votes aren't).
As an electoral reformer, talk of wasted votes always breaks my heart somewhat.
You know, my 2 cents is totally colored by he fact that I grew up wierd, so keep that as a caveat. But I think that its better to be poor with lots of siblings and family members than wealthy/comfortable as a single child. Me, I am planning on having at least 2. I hear it gets a lot cheaper after day care is done.....
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